Valentine day, the real story

'Oku taupotu 'i lalo heni ha fakamatala faka-Tonga

(CBN Ministries) Flowers, candy, red hearts and romance. That’s what Valentine’s day is all about, right? Well, maybe not.

The origin of this holiday for the expression of love really isn’t romantic at all — at least not in the traditional sense. Father Frank O’Gara of Whitefriars Street Church in Dublin, Ireland, tells the real story of the man behind the holiday — St. Valentine.

“He was a Roman Priest at a time when there was an emperor called Claudias who persecuted the church at that particular time,” Father O’Gara explains. ” He also had an edict that prohibited the marriage of young people. This was based on the hypothesis that unmarried soldiers fought better than married soldiers because married soldiers might be afraid of what might happen to them or their wives or families if they died.”

“I think we must bear in mind that it was a very permissive society in which Valentine lived,” says Father O’Gara. “Polygamy would have been much more popular than just one woman and one man living together. And yet some of them seemed to be attracted to Christian faith. But obviously the church thought that marriage was very sacred between one man and one woman for their life and that it was to be encouraged. And so it immediately presented the problem to the Christian church of what to do about this.”

“The idea of encouraging them to marry within the Christian church was what Valentine was about. And he secretly married them because of the edict.”

Valentine was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured for performing marriage ceremonies against command of Emperor Claudius the second. There are legends surrounding Valentine’s actions while in prison.

“One of the men who was to judge him in line with the Roman law at the time was a man called Asterius, whose daughter was blind. He was supposed to have prayed with and healed the young girl with such astonishing effect that Asterius himself became Christian as a result.”

In the year 269 AD, Valentine was sentenced to a three part execution of a beating, stoning, and finally decapitation all because of his stand for Christian marriage. The story goes that the last words he wrote were in a note to Asterius’ daughter. He inspired today’s romantic missives by signing it, “from your Valentine.”

“What Valentine means to me as a priest,” explains Father O’Gara, “is that there comes a time where you have to lay your life upon the line for what you believe. And with the power of the Holy Spirit we can do that — even to the point of death.”

Valentine’s martyrdom has not gone unnoticed by the general public. In fact, Whitefriars Street Church is one of three churches that claim to house the remains of Valentine. Today, many people make the pilgrimage to the church to honor the courage and memory of this Christian saint.

“Valentine has come to be known as the patron saint of lovers. Before you enter into a Christian marriage you want some sense of God in your life — some great need of God in your life. And we know, particularly in the modern world, many people are meeting God through his Son, Jesus Christ.”

“If Valentine were here today, he would say to married couples that there comes a time where you’re going to have to suffer. It’s not going to be easy to maintain your commitment and your vows in marriage. Don’t be surprised if the ‘gushing’ love that you have for someone changes to something less “gushing” but maybe much more mature. And the question is, is that young person ready for that?”

“So on the day of the marriage they have to take that into context,” Father O’Gara says. “Love — human love and sexuality is wonderful, and blessed by God — but also the shadow of the cross. That’s what Valentine means to me.”

 

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  1. ʻOku lahi ʻaupito ʻa e ngaahi talanoa kehekehe ki he tupuʻanga ʻo e ʻaho Valenitinó ʻa ia ko hono liliu faka-Tonga ia ʻe he Siasi Katoliká ʻa e Valentine mei he lea faka-Latina. ‘Oku ‘uhinga ‘eni ko e talu ‘ene tu’u ‘a e Katolika ‘i Tonga 1840 tupu mo hono fakamahu’inga’i ‘o e ‘aho ‘oku taku ‘e he siasi’ ni ko e ‘Aho Fakamanatu Tapu.

    Neongo ʻene kehekehe ‘a e ngaahi fakamatala mo e anga hono fakamanatua ‘i he ‘aho 14 ‘o Fepueli ‘o e ta’u kotoa ka ʻoku meimei tatau kotoa ʻi he ngaahi moʻoni’i meʻa ʻoku ʻoatu ʻi he fakamatala ʻa e tangataʻeiki pātele ko ʻení, Pātele Frank OʻGara.

    Ko hono moʻoni ne tupu e ʻaho fakamanatua ko ʻeni mei he pātele Katolika ko Valenitino peá ne iku ʻo fakanofo ko ha Sangato pe taha mā’oni’oni ‘e he Katolika’ hili ʻene pekiá.

    Ka ko e fakamatala ʻeni ʻa Pātele Frank OʻGara:

    Matalaʻi ʻakau, fuamelie, mafu ʻofa mo e feʻofaʻaki. Ko e ʻuuni meʻa kotoa ia fekauʻaki mo e ʻaho ʻo Valenitinó, tonu? Sai, mahalo pe ʻikai.

    Ko hono ngāueʻaki ko ʻeni e ʻaho fakamanatu ʻo Valenitinó ke fakahaaʻi ai ʻa e ʻofá naʻe ʻikai haʻane ʻuhinga ʻana ʻe taha ki he feʻofaʻaki ʻa e tangata mo e fefine – pea ne ʻikai pe pehē ia talu mei hono tupuʻangá.

    Kaekehe ʻoku ʻalu pe foki ʻa e taimí pea ʻi ai e ngaahi lilililiu ʻo aʻu mai ki he ʻuhinga ko ia ʻoku lahi ngāueʻaki ʻi onopooni ʻa ia ʻoku mei fakamamafa he feʻofoʻaki ʻa e tangata mo e fefine’.

    ʻI hono fakamatalaʻi ʻe Pātele OʻGara ʻa e ʻuhinga ʻo e Valenitinó ne ne pehē ko Valenitino ko ha pātele pea na’a’ ne ngāue fakafaifekau ʻi he taimi ʻo e ʻemipola Loma ko Claudias II. Ne fakatangaʻi ʻe he taki Loma ko ʻení e siasi Katoliká he ʻaho ko iá mo ‘ene ngaahi akonaki faka-Kalisitiane’.

    Ne kau ʻi he ʻuhnga ʻene fakatanga ne fai’ ʻa ʻene tui ʻoku ʻikai totonu ke mali ʻa e kau sōtiá ʻo tuʻunga he foʻi fakakaukau ʻoku sai ange tokua e tau ʻa e kau sōtia teʻeki malí he kau sōtia kuo ʻosi malí. Tokua koeʻuhī he ko e kau sōtia malí ʻe lava ke nau manavahē ki ha meʻa ʻe hoko kia kinautolu pe ko honau ngaahi uaifí pe fāmilí kapau te nau mate.

    Naʻe fakamanatu mai ʻe OʻGara ke tau manatuʻi ko e faʻahinga sōsaieti ne ʻi ai ʻa Valenitino he ʻaho ko iá ne fuʻu tauʻatāina. Naʻe lahi ke manakoa ange ʻa e mali tokolahí he mali ʻa e tangata pe ʻe taha mo ha fefine pe ʻe taha ʻo na nofo fakataha ne taukaveʻi ʻe he Katoliká mo ia kuo tau angamaheni ki ai he ‘aho ni’.

    Ko e taimi foki ‘eni ne lahi e lotu pangani pe hiteni ‘o hange ko ia ne tui ki ai ‘a e kau ’emipola Loma he kuonga ko ee. Pea ʻi ai ai ha niʻihi ne nau feing ngaʻunu ki he tui faka-Kalisitiané mo e lotu Katolika’. Ka ne mahino pe tui ʻa e siasí ko e malí naʻe fuʻu toputapu ʻaupito ʻi he vā ʻo e tangata pe ʻe taha mo e fefine ʻe taha ki heʻena mate pea ke fakalotolahiʻi e founga ko iá. Ka ne ʻikai taimi kuo hoko ʻa e fakakaukau ia ko iá ko ha palopalema ki he siasi’ koeʻuhi ko e lao ne piki ki ai ʻa e ʻEmipola Lomá.

    Ko e fakakaukau ko ē ke fakaʻaiʻai e kakaí ke mali he siasi Kalisitiané ko e meʻa ia ne teuteu atu ʻa Valenitino ke fakahokó. Peá ne iku ʻo ne fakamaliʻi fakapulipuli ai e kakaí ʻo fakatatau ki he tuʻutuʻuni ʻa e siasí.

    Ka ne iku ʻo maʻu e fai mali fakapulipuli ko ʻeni ʻa Valenitinó pea fakahū pilīsone mo fakamamahiʻi ia ki heʻene fai mali lolotonga ʻoku fepaki ia mo e tuʻutuʻuni ʻa ʻEmipola Claudius hono Uá.

    ʻOku ʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi talanoa tupuʻa ki he ngaahi ngāue ne fai ʻe Valenitino lolotonga ʻene kei ʻi he pilīsoné.

    Ko e taha e kau tangata ne ʻamanaki ke ne fakamaauʻi ia fakatatau ki he lao ʻa Lomá he taimi ko iá ko Asiteliasi, ʻa ia naʻe ʻi ai hono ʻofefine naʻe kui hono fofongá ko Julia. Ne lotuʻi mo fakamoʻui ʻa e kiʻi taʻahine ko ʻení ʻe Valenitino ʻo iku hoko ai ha meʻa fakaofo ko ha tafoki ʻa ʻAsiteliasi ia mo hono fāmilí ʻo hoko ko e Kalisitiane.

    ʻI he taʻu 269 hili e pekia ʻa Kilisitoó naʻe tautea ai ʻa Valenitino peá ne tuʻutuʻuni ke fakapoongi ia ʻi ha founga ʻe tolu, ʻa ia ko hono tā, tolo makaʻi pea tā tukuʻaki hano tuʻusi hono ʻulú koeʻuhī ko ʻene tuʻuaki ʻa e mali Kalisitiané.

    Naʻe hoko atu ʻa e talanoá ʻo pehē ko e ngaahi lea tuku ʻa Valenitino’ ne hā heʻene tohi ne ʻave ki he ʻofefine ʻo ʻAsiteliasí. Pea ko e fakamoʻoni ʻa Valenitino he tohi ko ʻeni ne hoko ia ʻo ne fakalotoa e feʻaveaki tohi pe kaati Valenitinó ʻi onopooni ʻa ia ʻoku ngāueʻaki ai ʻa e fakamoʻoni ʻoku tohi ʻo pehē – mei ho Valenitinó pe mei ho ʻofaʻangá.

    ʻI he fakaʻauhinga ʻa Pātele OʻGara ʻi hono tuʻunga ko e pātelé ne ne pehē ʻoku ʻi ai e taimi ʻi he lolotonga hoʻo fononga ʻi māmaní kuopau ke tuku ange ʻa hoʻo moʻuí koeʻuhī ko e meʻa ʻokú ke tui pīkitai ki aí. Pea ʻi he ivi ʻo e Laumālie Māʻoniʻoni te ke lava noa pe – ʻo tatau ai pe ka aʻu ki he tuʻunga e maté.

    Naʻe ʻikai tuku ʻe he kakaí e mate fakamaʻata ʻa Valenitinó ke ʻalunoa pe taʻefakatokangaʻiʻia. ʻI hono moʻoní, ko e fale lotu Siasi Katolika ʻo Whitefriars Street Church ʻi ʻAilani ko e taha ia he siasi ʻe tolu ʻoku nau kei tauhi e konga e ʻangaʻanga mei he sino matelie ʻo Valenitinó.

    ʻI he ʻahó ni kuo lahi e kakai kuo nau fononga pilikimi ki he fale lotú ni ke fakalāngilangiʻi e toʻa mo manatua ʻa e sangato pe mā’oni’oni Kalisitiane ko ʻení.

    Kuo hoko ʻa Valenitino ʻo ʻiloa ko e pataloni ia ʻo e kau sangato pe sangata ʻo e ngaahi ʻofaʻangá
    Ne toe pehē foki ʻe OʻGara ki muʻa pea ke hoko ʻo mali faka-Kalisitiane ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻa e ʻOtuá ʻi hoʻo moʻuí. Pea ʻoku tau ʻilo tautefito ki onopooni, ʻoku feohi ʻa e kakai tokolahi mo e ʻOtuá ʻo fakafou ʻi hono ʻalo ko Sēsū Kilisitoó.

    ʻI he meʻa ʻa Pātele OʻGara kapau ne ʻi heni ʻa Valenitino he ʻahó ni te ne fai e lau ko ʻení ki he ngaahi malí – ʻoku ʻi ai e taimi te mou faingataʻaʻia ai. ʻOku ʻikai faingofua hono tauhi homou ngafa pehē ki homou ngaahi fuakva he nofo malí. ʻOua naʻa mou ofo kapau ʻe fai angé kuo ʻikai kei moʻoni haʻo ʻofa hulu fau ki ha taha. Pea ko e fehuʻi leva, kuo mateuteu nai ha taha kei siʻi ki he tuʻunga peheé.

    Ko ia ai ʻi he ʻaho ʻo e malí kuopau ke mahuʻinga mālie kia kinaua ko e ʻofá – ʻofa fakaetangatá mo e feongoʻaki ʻa e fefine mo e tangatá ko e meʻa fakaʻofoʻofa ia, pea ʻoku faitāpuekina ia ʻe he ʻOtuá – ka ko e tapua pe foki ia ʻo e kolosí. Ko e ʻuhinga ia ʻo e Valenitino kia Pātele OʻGara.

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